Issue 57

In this issue:

1) Welcome Letter by Sibyl McLendon
2) Crohn's Disease by Pat Valle
3) The Power of Thought by Robert Taylor
4) Reframing Rejection by Peter Murphy
5) The Power Of Music
6) 50 Ways to Find Serenity by Maria Marsala

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Welcome Letter
by Dream Walker

Yá'át'ééh! As Christmas creeps up on us, I am finding it a bit difficult to get in the spirit! Why? It is too darn HOT here! How can I feel Christmas-y when it is 75 and there are flies and mosquitoes all over? It's just not right.

However, one thing has me really perked for Christmas this year: we are going to be giving my grandson, Anthony, a computer, with Internet service this year. At long last, he and I will be able to email one another every day. He tells everyone that the only thing he wants for Christmas is a computer so he can write to me. And it does my heart good to be able to accommodate that wish. Ho Ho Ho

Lucy the dog is just fine, thank you. Amazing how quickly they become an important and integral part of the family. 

So, don't stress! Relax, and don't worry. It will most likely all get done, and if it doesn't.... well, I bet no one even notices.

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Crohn's Disease
by Pat Valle

Two million Americans have Crohn's disease and another 30,00 are diagnosed every year. This disease effects the small intestine and causes inflammation of the digestive tract. Symptoms include chronic diarrhea, fever, malabsorption, loss of energy, appetite, weight, and painful ulcers in certain areas of the gastrointestinal lining. When the ulcers heal they leave scar tissue that hardens and causes problems with elimination. There may be chronic bleeding which can cause anemia. Poor assimilation of nutrients are also involved. In addition to ulceration and inflammation, people with Crohn's disease may develop partial obstruction of the bowel.

The disease normally manifest's itself between the early teens years, middle age and also after sixty. Attacks may occur every few months or years. if the condition is left untreated, bowel function deteriorates and can become serious and the risk of cancer rises sharply.

One of the most important concerns is a proper diet. The diet should consist of fresh or cooked vegetables such as broccoli, spinach, cabbage, carrots, celery brussel sprouts and garlic. These should be steamed or lightly baked or broiled. Drink plenty of steam-distilled water, fresh juices and herbal teas such as chamomile, fenugreek, slippery elm, marshmallow and pau d' arco. These herbs help support digestion and cleanse the bloodstream which will reduce inflammation. Alternate between the herbs for best results.

Aloe vera is beneficial because it softens the stools and has a healing effect on the digestive tract as well as soothes irritated tissues. Eliminate all dairy foods as well as red meats, alcohol, caffeine, carbonated drinks, greasy foods and corn. All of these foods cause an irritation of the digestive tract and formation of mucus. Add instead, essential fatty acids such as flax seed oil, fish oil or evening primrose oil. These also help reduce inflammation. A good dietary supplement with added vitamin A and E will heal damaged and injured tissues. Use calcium and magnesium and trace minerals as they are very important because they can be lost due to malabsorption and bouts of diarrhea. Try avoiding stress as much as possible as it has a direct effect on our bodies.

Avoid anti-acids because they can make the stomach produce more acids. Eat smaller meals throughout the day and make sure the food is chewed very well. Chewing also enhances the production of pancreatic enzymes which help with proper digestion. The cause of Crohn's disease is not fully known because there seems to be little evidence in regard to a specific gene marker but studies have shown that Caucasians and Jews have more of a chance in contracting this disease.

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The Power of Thought
by Robert Taylor

Ancient manuscripts and various religious writings have long
propounded the power of thought.

Studies of the writings of Aristotle, Buddha, Plato,
Epictetus, the Bible, the Bhagavad Gita and other ancient
manuscripts and individuals and religions show the power of
thought has been known for centuries. Many of those
teachings have been ignored or overlooked by the masses of
humankind.

It wasn't until the 19th century that writings and teachings
concerning the power of thought began their rapid spread.
Many consider James Allen and his booklet "As A Man
Thinketh" to have been the beginning of what is called "New
Age Thinking."

The basic premise is that our thoughts control our destiny
and most of our external circumstances. One can hardly deny
the truth of this statement when considering the events of
history. There are many great examples of the power of
thought.

Nikolai Tesla, one of the greatest inventors of all time,
created everything and tested it in his mind before it was
produced. And once produced it worked exactly as he
envisioned.

Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Samuel Morse, Alexander Bell and
Leonardo Da Vinci, just to name a few, created everything in
their minds before it became a reality.

The power of the mind (thought) to cure allegedly incurable
diseases has been well documented. Where all else has
failed, the power of mind has been shown to succeed.

In the face of ample evidence some of us continue to
disbelieve the power of thought. This is tantamount to
saying electricity or gravity do not exist because we cannot
see them. This changes radically the first time you
experience an electrical shock or a painful fall.

Perhaps we have tried using our thoughts to achieve some
goal or obtain some material object which, regardless of our
efforts, remained beyond our reach.

When our objectives failed to materialize within the time
frame we had set for them, we gave up and decided there was
little or no power in thoughts. It may well have been, had
we persisted but a little longer, our objectives would have
been met.

We at times think, "yes, it will work for others, but it
will not work for me." This statement falls completely flat
when you look at the wide range of those who have used the
power of thought to obtain the results they desired.

When I say wide range, I mean from those totally illiterate
and physically handicapped to those with great literacy and
outstanding physiques. The circumstances of life and their
backgrounds did not have much meaning. Using their thoughts
they achieved what they wished.

Each and every one of us has the power of thought. We must
simply develop and use it to the best of our abilities. It
is like learning to walk. First we crawl, then we stand,
then we walk. We cannot expect the full power of thought
the first time we use it. It has to be nurtured and
developed consistently and persistently.

We find over time the power of our thoughts gradually
becomes more effective in achieving our objectives. Spend
time developing and using your power of thought and you will
be delighted with the results you obtain.

It is always available to you, so why not start using it
now?


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Reframing Rejection
by Peter Murphy

Fear of rejection is one of the greatest fears shared by all
human beings. Nobody wants to feel left out, unwanted or unliked.
And at the same time what we really want is to be loved and
accepted by everyone - that would be bliss. It will never happen
though because we all have biases, opinions and beliefs that color
the way we look at the world.

So people will reject us no matter how good we look, no matter
how successful we are, and no matter how giving we are. If we
were to become even nicer, and even more spiritually aware they
would still reject us so it is a pointless battle trying to win
over everyone.

However we can change how we think about rejection. If we change
the meaning of rejection it can become our ally instead of our
enemy. Next time someone rejects you why not take it as feedback
instead. That is, your approach did not work and you need to try
a new approach. In sales, the salesperson must view rejection as
feedback or else she will slowly go insane!

So let us view rejection as feedback. When you are rejected
immediately set your mind the task of intelligently answering
this question - how must I change my approach to get what I want?
By doing this, you shift your attention back to what you can do
and off the other person whose approval is theirs to give or not
to give.

Let us take the example of asking someone to help you with a
project at work, you are afraid to ask for help so when you do,
your coworker can almost smell this fear of rejection coming from
you. So he says No, he is far to busy to help you today. Now
immediately ask yourself the feedback reframe question - how must
I change my approach to get what I want?

Asking this question will give you an unlimited range of new
approaches to use: maybe smile more, or bribe him with a soft
drink, or perhaps offer to do some of his boring work in return
for help.

It also helps to anticipate rejection before it has a chance to
happen. In the case of the example above, before talking to the
colleague I would spend a few minutes in preparation running
through possible ways he might reject me. For each possible
situation, just keep asking yourself - how must I change my
approach to get what I want?

You may not realize, most people just give up too easily
because rejection feels so unpleasant. If you reframe rejection
to mean feedback it becomes a mental puzzle to solve instead.
You will then be able to endure the word *No* a lot longer. This
endurance will also encourage others to let you have what you
want because you just do not seem to take No for an answer!

****Warning: maintain rapport at all times when you use this
approach, this new found courage and tenacity is only
appreciated by others if you use it with a win-win outlook.****


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"Faith of the Heart", lyrics by Diane Warren, already performed by Rod Stewart

It's been a long road, getting from there to here.
It's been a long time, but my time is finally near.
And I can feel a change in the wind right now,
Nothing's in my way.
And they're not going to hold me down no more,
No they're not going to hold me down.

'Cause I've got faith of the heart,
I'm going where my heart will take me.
I've got faith to believe... I can do anything.
I've got strength of the soul,
And no one's going to bend or break me.
I can reach any star, 'cause I've got faith.
I've got faith.
Faith of the heart.

It's been a long night,
Trying to find my way.
Been through the darkness,
Now I'll finally have my day.
And I will see my dream come alive at last.
I will touch the sky.
And they're not going to hold me down no more,
No they're not going to change my mind.

'Cause I've got faith of the heart,
I'm going where my heart will take me.
I've got faith to believe... I can do anything.
I've got strength of the soul,
And no one's going to bend or break me.
I can reach any star, 'cause I've got faith.
I've got faith.
Faith of the heart.

I've known a wind so cold, I've seen the darkest days.
But now the winds I feel are only winds of change.
I've been to the fire, and I've been to the rain,
But I'll be fine.

'Cause I've got faith of the heart,
I'm going where my heart will take me.
I've got faith to believe... I can do anything.
I've got strength of the soul,
And no one's going to bend or break me.
I can reach any star, 'cause I've got faith.
I've got faith.
Faith of the heart.

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50 Ways to Find Serenity
(when serenity is the last thing on your mind!)
by Maria Marsala


· Ask yourself…"Am I being too hard on myself?"
· Ask yourself…"What do I have in my life that I can enjoy
at this moment?"
· Ask yourself …"How important is it?"
· Ask yourself…"What is my gut telling me?"
· Ask yourself…"Are my goals or expectations realistic?"
· Ask yourself…"Am I considering all my options?"
· Ask yourself…"What is it about this situation that I can
do something about?"
· Ask yourself…"Who in my family or support circle can help
me now?"
· Ask yourself…"What is it about this situation that I can
manage?"
· Ask yourself…"What can I change about my attitude?"
· Ask yourself…"Do I really want to be doing this?"
· Ask yourself…"What needs to be done first?"
· Ask supportive family members for support.
· Trust that you know what's best for you.
· How's your integrity? Are your thoughts, feelings and
actions matching? If not, what can you do about it?
· Forgive yourself...being angry hurts your soul.
· Buy yourself...some flowers or send yourself a card!
· Forgive someone...being angry uses lots of energy.
· Happiness is...enjoying what you have.
· Change negative self-talk into positive affirmations...I
am ____________.
· Tell someone who cares about you what is bothering you.
· Call a friend…to talk or go out for ________________.
· Call someone...to let them know that you are thinking
about them.
· Call someone...Go out to lunch, for coffee or for a walk.
· Breath...take 3 deep breaths. Hold it to the count of 3.
Slowly exhale. Do this 2 times or until you calm down
· Go to the movies, concert or play.
· Call a friend for support.
· Find a quiet place to read a book.
· Get a ...massage, manicure or pedicure.
· Connect...Join a club or organization. Volunteer in some
way.
· Make a list of the 10 things you're tolerating.
· Read a book for 30-minutes.
· Write a list of the things you are grateful for.
· Learn how to say NO! (without feeling guilty!)
· Do absolutely nothing!
· Sit down. Possibly listen to some enjoyable music with a
cup of your favorite beverage.
· Rent a movie that makes you laugh.
· Speed up or slow down. Only you know which you need to
do!
· Get enough sleep...take a nap if you need to.
· Exercise...go for a walk by yourself or with someone you
love. Do whatever type of exercise you're willing to do.
· Spend 30 minutes doing something you really, really
enjoy.
· Purchase something...that you can afford and want.
· Do something on your "To Complete" list... or start a
list.
· Find a quiet place...go into the bathroom and lock the
door if you must! Close your eyes for a few moments and
think about something positive.
· Do something special for someone else...and don't tell
them what you did!
· Draw or color. Remember that your children's books
belong to them so ask permission!
· Meditate and pray... By yourself or as part of a group.
· Remember...what my life purpose is.
· Remember...that no one is perfect.
· Saying "no" to others often means saying "yes" to you!

© Copyright 2001 All Rights Reserved. Maria Marsala, Business & Life
Coach-Consultant. Maria works with individuals as they design, start
or grow their businesses and careers around around what they love to
do. To download a PDF copy of "Serenity Cards" go to
http://www.coachmaria.com/articles.html

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