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Spirit Part 3, Is My Loved One Happy?

One of the most frequently asked questions that I receive from people is about how their loved one is doing in Spirit.  They worry that the loved one is unhappy, or angry with them about something, that they may be displeased with some aspect of the way that the funeral was handled or the way in which the goodbyes were said.  I can assure each and every one of you without knowing anything about the facts of your individual circumstances, that your loved one is happy and not angry or upset about anything.

How can I know this without knowing anything about them, or about you?  Easy.  I know what it is like to be in Spirit.  I have stated before, but it cannot be stressed enough, that being in Spirit is being home.  It is where we all belong.  It is so easy to get so caught up in our lives here that we start to think that this is what is important; how successful we are, now much money we have, how many friends, how many toys… when in reality, this is no different than being in school.  Our real selves exist in Spirit.

Going home to Spirit is a wonderful and miraculous event.  All pain is removed.  All emotional trauma is gone.  We are no longer sick, or tired or hurt.  We exist as pure energy, but with the essence of who we are intact.  Everything is made clear to us.  All of our transgressions are forgiven.  We discover that we have another chance to make good everything that we failed at this lifetime.

If your loved one was angry or upset about something right before they passed, it is gone.  If you had done something to hurt them, or if you let them down in some way, don’t worry!  They have immediately learned that none of that matters.  It may seem huge to you, but to your loved one is Spirit it is as minuscule as a mote of dust.  They have reunited with loved ones of their own that had passed.  They are filled with wonder and love. All is joy.

Many loved ones do, indeed, spend time with those that they have left behind for a period of time after death.  If you feel them around you, no doubt they are there.  But as time goes on, they will visit less and less, because they are busy learning new lessons and ideas, and planning for their next incarnation.  They also recognize that you need them less as time goes on, and you learn to live your life with out them.  They want you to be happy.  They want you to go on with your life.  They want you to be happy.  They do not want you to spend your time in pain and depression, missing them.  Do not allow the passing of a loved one to stick you in the past, never moving on with your life.  Invariably, when I get a message from Spirit for a loved one, it is that they are happy, at peace, and do not want the ones left behind to be sad.

Now, I do not want any of you who are in pain of any kind to get the idea that this sounds so great, “I believe that I will commit suicide and go there now.”   Suicide is a breaking of your Karma.  It is using your free will to circumvent the lessons that you have to learn, the growth that you came here for and the Karma that you came here to transmute.  It is a huge step backwards on the Karmic wheel.  Committing suicide severely wounds the ones that you leave behind, and sets up a huge Karmic debt that you will have to repay.

I know very well, from experience, how hard it is to lose someone that you love.  But take comfort in the knowledge that they are home, where it is happy and pain free.  They will be waiting for you when your time here comes to an end.   They have learned that there is no room in the human soul for hate, revenge, pain or anger.  It is too filled with love.  Let your heart be filled with love as well.  I would like to close this with a poem that I believe sums this up very well: 

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet
birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

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